REAL TALK relationships

Don’t be afraid to love again. Life is too short. We live. We love hard and we hurt. But the hurt should not hinder us from being open to love again. You haven’t lived until you have loved. You haven’t loved until you live. Pull down the wall as hard as it may be and be open to love again.

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Grief, Loss: Real talk

No one said it would be this hard to lose you. Forever in my heart. The pain is deep. They say as time goes on, it gets better. When things like this happen, you find out who your true friends are and you realize which family members you can rely on and lean on. Never take life for granted. Life is so fleeting. Life is such a fleeting moment so don’t waste time on the small stuff. Don’t waste time on something that doesn’t deserve your time, because time waits for no one and that is just wasted time, when you can use that time on something more productive and meaningful. Another day, another memory. As the days go by the memory of you is as bright as this guiding light. I know your spirit is lifting me up right now. I’m good. Smiling.

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Real Talk Relationship,. Family, Love

When you care about something so deeply you nourish it, you take care of it. You don’t let anyone harm it and all you want to do is see that smile, see that happiness, feel that joy, feel that love. When you see someone hurting, you want to hold on tight, you want to help mend that broken heart. You want to see that happiness, again. You also have to learn to let go and know when to let go and know you will be okay.

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Real talk relationship

You don’t’ know your strength until you go through something and then you know how really strong you are. We are stronger than we think. We are constantly being tested. You can either pass or fail. Know your strength, DRAW on your strength. Be strong and endure. Real Talk..

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Real Talk Relationships

Don’t be mistreated by someone that says they love you, cause if they loved you, guess what? Real talk. they would not treat you badly. You don’t treat someone you love, bad. You have the utmost respect for the person. If you are being treated badly, the respect is not there, that person does not respect you. Plus, you should respect yourself more and be brave enough to walk away. You don’t treat someone you love bad, you cherish and support that person; you put that person up on a pedestal and cherish them like fine wine.

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Real Talk Relationships

Can a person change? Yes, Maybe. But you ain’t gonna change them,. You can do everything possible, but you ain’t gonna change them. They have to want to change on their own and it may not be while they are with you. Some people may never change. But are people capable of change? yes, people are capable of change, but they have to want to change themselves., Just because you feel they need to change, some may see no need to change; they are happy with who they are or how they may conduct themselves. Don’t think you can change them; Real Talk, don’t waste your time. They may not change for you, but they may change for someone or they may not change at all. You have to be happy with you either way. You may never be able to change that person no matter how hard you try; You can choose to stay or choose to leave. You can choose to stay and accept that person as is or choose to leave and be happy with you. I would suggest to move forward especially if you are not getting your needs met. If your needs are not getting met now,. nothing is going to change, no one is changing; therefore, they will not get met later. Be happy with you. Who cares if they never change? It is not about them, it should be about you and your growth. Real Talk

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Closure Letter to self

Sometimes, it’s hard to move forward, but sometimes moving forward is best. As I look back over the relationship, I realize it was over a long time ago. It was over when you first started making excuses and I started to accept them because I wanted to make it work. It was over when the communication was gone and I couldn’t talk to you anymore. At the time, when I realized I couldn’t rely on you emotionally or physically, it was over. You were absent in so many ways. I was your secondary and now, I am my primary.

Sincerely,

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A lost love letter

To my dearest love     

My thoughts are always about you. I wonder how you are doing and I wonder if I should call. I wonder if I should totally forget about you, but as soon as I begin to forget, there you are again. If at one time, you could say to me how you really feel. If at once you could be human and express to me your deepest thoughts and love. I know that your life hasn’t been the greatest and that you are used to being closed off to the world. However, at once upon a time, I wish for just a day that you would just let me into your world.  

At times, I feel that yes, I want to see you again because I miss you so much and I think to myself could he have changed. Once I…

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Real Talk Relationships

Don’t believe a cheater. You know they cheating. If you feel like they’re cheating then they’re cheating. You have to go with how you feel. Never doubt yourself because if you feel a certain way then most likely you are probably right. Excuse after excuse. You heard it. You ask, who you on the phone with, they say, oh my mother, then you ask at 2 o’clock in the morning? You on the phone with your mother at 2 o’clock in the morning? Right… Next time, they go outside because they have to talk to someone in private and it’s not you and you ask, who you gotta go outside to talk to in private with and they say. oh, yeah, my sister.. Right. Follow your instinct cause they are probably cheating. Follow the excuses they will lead you in the right direction straight out of the relationship.

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Breaking up can be hard. A lot people break up because they don’t know how to communicate effectively. They don’t know how to communicate or they don’t want to communicate. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, it is essential to communicate. This could only be a win-win.  And for real, REAL TALK, it can’t be one-sided; there can’t be just one person in the relationship trying to communicate. Have you ever been in a situation where you are constantly saying let’s talk about this or that and it never happens and you’re constantly being avoided? Both individuals in the relationship have to be able to communicate with each other, affectionately, openingly and acceptingly.  Big mistake to avoid the issues. Don’t avoid the issues, address them, when there is lack of communicate, things only get worse not better and it could leave your partner feeling bitter and confused, which can result to a breakup . Be mature about it and learn to communicate; you don’t want to lose a great person just because you can’t communicate or you won’t communicate. If no one is talking or communicating, then what is Left. Nothing.

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