Real Talk

“Just because some people are fueled by drama doesn’t mean you have to attend the performance.” –Unknown

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Failed expectations

Disappointments are a result of failed expectations. To have less disappointments, either expect less from other people or demand more from   –Unknown

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Fun Show.. WATCH…Kountry Kuzins TV show HOST Richard Graham and CO host Sondra Savage, howdy, kuzins

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Effective communications is key to improving relationships

Moving ahead: Effective communication can improve relationships

Effective communication can help improve relationships and can lead to a more healthy relationship. According to helpguide.com, effective communication helps us to better understand a person, resolve differences, build trust and respect, and create environments where affection and caring can flourish. Listed are 6 tips for improving communications. Improving communication may not be immediate, but can improve overtime with practice and effort.

1. Improve listening. Know the difference between hearing and listening. Sometimes you are hearing the message but you are not listening to the message. Be sure you are listening to what is being heard.
2. Eliminate avoidance. Don’t avoid the conflict and pretend the conflict doesn’t exist.
3. Beware of other’s feeling and how your actions might affect theirs.
4. Be open and communicate how you feel and how someone else’s behavior may be affecting you or others.
5. Be sensitive and more open to what others are saying by creating a supportive climate for communication.
6. Be consistent when communicating what you want; don’t send mixed messages.

 

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OVERCOMING INSECURITIES

Overcoming insecurities after ending a relationship and moving forward

After ending a relationship, you may ask yourself is it normal to experience feelings of insecurity; some may agree this is normal. The relationship may have left you feeling insecure for 3 reasons. 1) You feel insecure because the relationship failed and you feel it was your fault; 2) Your partner made you feel insecure in the relationship; making you feel you were non worthy of their love, affection and attention. 3) You feel insecure because you allowed yourself to become lost in your partner’s world and you lost a sense of self. According to the Helpguide.org, whatever the reason for the split, whether you wanted the relationship to end or not, the breakup of a relationship can trigger unsettling feelings.

According to Helpguide.org, romantic relationships begin with excitement and high hope for the future and when the relationship fails, there is a feeling of profound disappointment, stress, and grief. How do you begin to regain those feelings of security and feeling confident again? Building self-esteem will lead to building confidence, and once you increase your confidence, this leads to feeling more secure, more secure about life and who you are.

Listed are 8 ways to increase or improve self-esteem.

1. Believe in yourself and believe you are worthy.
2. Take time for yourself to know you and understand you better; the more you understand you, the more you are comfortable with you just being you.
3. Exercise. Relax and enjoy you and who you are.
4. Be confident in who you are, accept you. Understand how you view yourself becomes priority over how others may view you.
5. Focus on what you have accomplished.
6. Create positive affirmations, create positive self talk and eliminate negative self talk, instead of saying I can’t, say I can.
7. Surround yourself with a positive environment, with positive people and a positive support group.
8. Don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself.

 

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Fit into your own box

• “Some people will only love you as long as you fit in their box. Don’t be afraid to disappoint.”  –Unknown

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YOU hold you back

When you get discouraged, you have to keep going. Only you can hold you back.

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THE PSYCHE OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE FORMULA

When you first meet, there is that attraction. It may not be immediate, but there is some kind of attraction.  Men become immediately attracted before getting to know the person. What if you became more immediately attracted to the brain, the knowledge, the mind versus the appearance of the person? Women, there is that attraction there, but they are initially mostly attracted to stability and financial strength of the person. What if you were blind folded and you did not know anything about each other when you first met and you didn’t talk of your career or your finances?  Your backs were turned to each other and you did not know the appearance or the looks of the person, what could you learn from the experience?

You could get to know the person stripped down, naked. It should not be about how the person looks or how much money they have;  it should be about the similarities and the differences and how well you can communicate and mesh with the person in the most emotional, supportive and caring way. You have to let all your guards down, be open, be stripped naked of the mind, of the being; bring the walls down, expose all the issues, the fractures and dysfunctions., You have the whole person not parts and you can say, at the end of the day, I want to grow old with this person, all of this person. I want to be in love with person still when I’m 80. The love is transparent and the love transforms through time, through life challenges and now we’re here. We brought each other here.

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WHAT the mind knows

• “Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.” –Unknown

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INTERTWINED

You don’t know how deeply you are intertwined with someone until you try to walk away from them.”  –Unknown

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