When you first meet, there is that attraction. It may not be immediate, but there is some kind of attraction. Men become immediately attracted before getting to know the person. What if you became more immediately attracted to the brain, the knowledge, the mind versus the appearance of the person? Women, there is that attraction there, but they are initially mostly attracted to stability and financial strength of the person. What if you were blind folded and you did not know anything about each other when you first met and you didn’t talk of your career or your finances? Your backs were turned to each other and you did not know the appearance or the looks of the person, what could you learn from the experience?
You could get to know the person stripped down, naked. It should not be about how the person looks or how much money they have; it should be about the similarities and the differences and how well you can communicate and mesh with the person in the most emotional, supportive and caring way. You have to let all your guards down, be open, be stripped naked of the mind, of the being; bring the walls down, expose all the issues, the fractures and dysfunctions., You have the whole person not parts and you can say, at the end of the day, I want to grow old with this person, all of this person. I want to be in love with person still when I’m 80. The love is transparent and the love transforms through time, through life challenges and now we’re here. We brought each other here.
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